Flowers, Philippines Scams - Avoid Getting Tricked
...Read My Cautionary Story

Author: Terry Spelling

I find it necessary at times to make it clear when I make a mistake, to relay the information so others may avoid it. In this case it was a matter of trust and I was duped. It was not the numerous florets of roses and gifts sent to the Philippines, hec it really wasn't even the money (the dollar/peso exchange rate is laughable and I could buy quite good quality romantic gifts like teddy bears and hearts and stuff for around $20 bucks)...it was the betrayal that was the real cost I counted. Filipinas are some of the most beautiful and accommodating women in the world. I met my "mistake" (her) some time ago on a very popular Philippines meeting site and a relationship blossomed, so naturally i felt compelled to reach out to her from Idaho in the form of a gratuity. Needless to say my wallet opened wide due to this new enthusiasm for the young lady.

The Honeymoon period
Linda (not her real name) was demure and sensitive and completely disarming in her charm, I felt that I was someone special to her and spending hundreds of dollars on flowers and gifts only seemed natural to me at the time.

To tell you the truth it was an indulgence on my part. I got a kick out of seeing her smiling face on the cam the next day, after my large clusters and bouquets of roses reached her door. It was enjoyable to me and each time I did it, she seemed so delighted which led to great and fun conversations, because it put us both in a great mood and brought us closer.

I wont tell you I regret a single cent I spent. I don't. But I honestly thought we were building up to something permanent and strong, which in hind sight was not the case...you see what happened next puzzled me beyond belief. It was a Friday night after work and frankly, I had given up on American women, preferring the smooth cocoa colored skin of a Filipina and going out on the week ends was a non event. I preferred to sit in front of my pc and chat and cam to my adorable Filipina girlfriend. I logged on as usual, using my yahoo messenger and as expected there she is waiting for me...her username highlighted and her picture live. However this time I had logged in as another user, one she didnt know and I said hi...she responded positively not even knowing it was me. I decided to play a trick on her and feign a seduction then later (not too long) reveal myself. This did not go down to well for me.

Honeymoon is over
As it turned out she had some ugly things to say about me to this *stranger* (which of course was me) that completely amazed me. She told me that she was waiting for this lame guy that thinks she loves him. She claimed this dumb a** sent flowers to the Philippines nearly every week and that *he* is a sucker. I was broken spirited. But I played along further.

The final part of this cautionary story of mine is not for the faint hearted...you see, if you are so into someone...hook, line and sinker, learning about that persons real feelings can be strikingly painful to your spirit and crippling to your self esteem. But what happened next just plain shocked me.

I was doing quite a good job of making her laugh and teasing her, making her open up and then it happened. She actually invited me to a certain website where she claims she "works" this website does not take paypal payments (obviously because of its good corporate standing) and asked me if I wanted to watch her cam naked for a payment and would I tell her my credit card details. Agh...enough said LOL

I logged out and removed her from my Yahoo list that night. You really can find good women in the Philippines and sending flowers, chocolates and soft toys to the Philippines can be an enjoyable thing to do, especially with the superior dollar conversion rate, you can buy some really impressive gifts. I learned my mistake and here is the moral of the story.

In Retrospect...
Well its not a one sentence moral, I want to explain what I believe happened and what my critical mistakes were that ensured I would get this appalling result with such a beautiful woman. First I will address the cam model issue. I really don't have that much of a problem with that, of course, I prefer a humble chaste woman with good morals, but hec life is messy and people are poor in the Philippines, so if your filipina is a cam model, it isn't a deal breaker I guess. There are financial reasons why. I could have forgiven that, given time, as long as she stopped it.

The gifts I sent to the Philippines were not a mistake as they were just as entertaining for me as they were for her. I got just as much joy out of it, so being fair...I got to say I spent that money on myself not just on her. Initially the service I used island rose, was so good at delivering and customizing my gifts that it became adictive. The gifts always were dropped on time and were the correct gift, I cant speak highly enough of that service, reliable and bend over backwards to help and of course dirt cheap for an American with dollars against the Peso.

The Lesson Learned...
Here is the real summation of my miserable result with this first filipina relationship. It's this. I was too clingy. Filipinas are strong minded individualists as a cultural female trait. They require "handling" I was too available to this young, hot, lady and I know many of you already understand what I am getting at. I was online every single night...I fawned any night she was not on my yahoo. My heart ached. I spoke to no others so that was a big mistake too. I was too quick to fall in love and frankly you can't beat yourself up for that, but you can moderate your behavior for your own good. These days I never reveal my affection for a new girl I meet online. Now...I play the game as I should have in the first place. Thats all I have to say about that...I hope it has helped some of you and I must rush now, I have a new filipina on my yahoo I have to ignore ;)

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